how cool is that sarah chick?

I succumbed to a whinge today. Sarah was the unlucky victim of a rant about jinxing the thing with Melbourne-boy (he hasn't called), feeling like a single-freak in couple-world, + generally being miserable. She came back with pretty much the perfect response. So much so that I have to share...

being single does suck - does he like me? will anybody ever like me? blah blah blah. but it did not suck so much that i ever wanted to top myself.

i had many crushes on lots of inappropriate guys (who never liked me back, or if they did, never let on) and lots of inappropriate one night stands. i guess the main thing is that it teaches you that you can survive without that significant other and sometimes it aint all bad.

you can watch what you want without someone telling you that oprah is crap, you can leave the party when you want to, you can eat chocolate for breakfast if you like, you can cry at a movie without feeling like a pussy, you can lift heavy boxes without someone there to tell you they are too heavy for them... but most of all i think when you do get back into a good relationship, you recognise what is actually good about it, you are happy to spend your time with the other and there is no "we're so independant, we don't need to be together but we are" blah blah blah, bullshit bullshit.

for me, when mat is not around life is just a little bit more boring but i would not know that except for the fact that i did many many many many years of having to amuse myself (and plenty of staring at the clouds hoping a magical man would burst through and he would look like david bowie in labyrinth.....but that's another story).

i jinxed heaps of things with heaps of boys and felt like a downright nerd a lot of the time (and i mean a LOT of the time).

it's all part of the joy.

s x x

Thanks mate - friends are the bomb.